Romantic relationships come in many forms; some are magical brief encounters while others are deep emotional bonds that last a lifetime. Yet often relationships are judged and valued based solely on how long the relationship lasts and not the quality, lessons and growth we take away. When a relationship is short-lived people tend to trivialize […]

By John Ullman S has been gone for over eight years now. She died suddenly, a heart attack, at 61. Her death shocked our poly community, many of us being close to her age. We had lost another of us some years before, but it was an accident, a car wreck. Then we were stunned. […]

Polyamory is by no means for everyone, and monogamy certainly seems to work best for most people. But one of the more unfortunate features of monogamy is the way it tends to force relationships to be either The Right One, or nonexistent. The general goal of monogamy, after all, is to find that one person […]

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